My abs and brake light are one I am thinking a have a front sensor out. I wanted to make sure there wasn't a wire broken and I can't for the life of me even find them and I just missing them or does the wheel have to come off

We are working on rules changes as we speak. BoD are discussing this issue. Chances coming soon.

Change the speed sensor didn't help  i got a new abs box from the junk yard  same year as mine is there anything that is different or should they be the same 

Speed sensor calibration for the speedometer. Which can be reflashed.

So it won't just plug in and fix my abs light 

When I put the rear sensor I went for a short drive and the light never turned off 

So it won't just plug in and fix my abs light 

It might do that but it might have the speedometer way off or it might be close. You can flash the ABS module with a frequency offset for correction of tire sizes. So lots of oversize tire uses typically do this to get the speedometer corrected. Not knowing what was done to the module or what size tires where on the vehicle its a guessing game.

When I get some time this weekend I might  try it to see what happens just getting tired of the dang light on 

Don't feel bad I've got the same issue. I'm getting tired of the ABS and BRAKE light always on. I look a dark dash it means everything is working properly.

I couldn't sleep this morning so I went ahead and put the other box in. To my surprise  the lights turned off for a mile or so then turned back on. Strange thing is that my brakes are a little softer witch is a good thing they where so dam hard